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What is Mid-Career Crisis & How to Deal with It?

Is there any moment that came in your life where you have felt that you are just stuck with not moving forward? Or a time when you really feel helpless of staring over everything once again, and also you cannot do anything to move forward? Well, this thing is called Mid-Life Crisis, but there is another similar and very serious term named Mid-Career Crisis. This is the situation where you realize or feel that you are just stuck in your career, and there is no chance that you will ever get a promotion or when there is no chance of progress in your career. True Meaning & Symptoms of Mid-Career Crisis There is no doubt that it is really a depressing situation when you have already spent a major part of your life struggling to get somewhere and in the end, you are not happy with it. Obviously, at this stage, you have no other option but  to get up in the morning and go through the same irritating and annoying office routine. Usually, people keep this situation a secret from everyon

10 Ways To Stop Ruminating

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Now for most of you, this term Ruminating might be new, but actually, this is something that almost all of you do in your daily lives. Well, this is your situation when you keep on thinking about something again and again, and when all these thoughts are about something evil or dark then that is the situation known to be ruminating. Now you might be wondering what is the harm in thinking about something unless you are not committing it? Well, the answer is simple, because all actions are originated from some thought.

Reasons for Ruminating


As obvious such negative thoughts may lead you to perform some evil actions or get you into depression. As a result, you will start getting lonely, your friend circle will keep getting minimized, and a day will come when you will find yourself all alone in some dark corner still ruminating. As for some people, this rumination is uncontrollable, because they had some past trauma, that they are still carrying with themselves to this day.

Situations for Rumination


Then there are situations when a person himself falls for rumination himself, like if you are in some problem, and you constantly think about it. Then it will affect your mental abilities. As for some of you, it is really hard to get out of these thoughts because now you are habitual of thinking about such things. Well, there are a few steps that you can follow to stop ruminating.

1. Create Distraction from Such Thoughts


First of all, while you are ruminating the best thing you can do is to create some kind of distraction to instantly get out of such thoughts. Like you can make a sudden plan with your friends, and go hang out with them. Otherwise, if you have any close friend then get him on call, and share all of your thoughts, or just simply have a fun chat.


2. Write Down all These Thoughts


Then next thing that you can do is to do something about your thoughts, like bring all those solutions into action. If you are having negative thoughts, then their solutions might also be popping out in your mind. Similarly, you can write down all those thoughts in some diary, and let the burden fall away.

3. Take Baby Steps Towards Solution


Now once you are done with writing down all those thoughts, then try taking a step that could solve that issue. With the whole problem written down, you need not carry the burden of thinking about it, and now instead you can focus over solving it somehow.

4. Question your Negativity


After this, you need to make sure that you never leave such negative thoughts unquestioned. So instead of thinking about problems, try to think that how exactly these negative feelings are affecting your life, and what exactly you are losing due to rumination.

5. Set New Goals or Find where you Lack


Similarly, with all those ruminations, you need not add up something extra on your mind regarding the goals of your life. You are mentally disturbed, achieving goals in such a state is not an easy task. At this point either give up with that goal, and choose something else, or try to find out that where exactly you are lacking that you are so far from your goal achievement.

6. Find Help with Therapy


After this, you need to adopt something positive in your life, re-evaluate yourself. Do not let these ruminations let you down, and start seeking the help of some psychiatrist, or start some therapy sessions. This is another step forward to your positive lifestyle.

7. Adopt Yoga or Meditation


Most people try yoga or meditation just to clear up their mind from all the negative energy around them. So why not you adopt this healthy activity as well? Simply just watch some tutorials or join some yoga classes, where you will learn how to clear up your mind completely.

8. Avoid Triggering Situations


There are certain routines, or people, or activities that suddenly trigger rumination for you. So here you need to do something, take a notepad with you, and keep taking notes when rumination starts about everything in your surroundings. Now next time simply avoid those situations or people.

9. Keep yourself busy


Next thing is starting some extracurricular activities like start reading some good books, or watch some good and positive movies. By doing this now your mind will stay focused on that book or particular movie instead of rumination.

10.             Socialize in Positive Environment


Last but not least start socializing, and by socializing it does not mean that you need to go party all the time. Just hang out with few of your close friends, share your stories or you can even go camping or fishing as well.


Ruminating is one of the worst things that you are doing to yourself, so make sure that you get rid of it as soon as possible. It is not just wasting a lot of your time which you could spend productively but also draining away the positivity and energy that resides within you.It just makes you feel that you don’t have the control over your own life and just makes some illogical,far from reality thoughts be the drivers of the car of your life.

Always remember the true power which you will always have no matter whether you are rich or poor or whatever your race is,is your power to control your thoughts and emotions in order to channelize them into something better and purposeful.

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