In this blog i will be talking about the problems that come, while establishing a healthy Parent-Teen relationship and how you can overcome them. I have also included some tips to help you in establishing a strong relation with your teen.
Many people think that family becomes less important to children as they move into their teenage years. But in reality, the child now needs their family’s support more than ever before.
For teenagers, parents are a source of care and emotional support. Families give teenagers practical, financial, and emotional help. It’s normal for teenagers to be moody,unapologetic or quiet but they still need their parents.
Healthy Parent-Teen relationships:
- Struggle among parents and teens is common
A teens parent should realize these normal struggles with fad, music, and other efforts of independence occur in every family. Once they know that, they can relax more and worry less about how their teenager is turning out to be, chances are they will be just fine. As rightfully said by K. Health "Children are like a mirror what they see and hear, they become, so be a good reflection for them"
· Establishing freedom
As teens establish freedom, parents need to understand a number of points. Parents are still the most important influence in their teen’s lives and in the process of growing up from a teen to an adult, one of the greatest difficulties faced by their child is becoming independent while maintaining a loving relationship with parents.
Struggle for control
Struggle for control
When children are young, many aspects of their lives are under the control of their parents. These parents choose their child’s friends, clothes, hobbies, and so on. As children grow older they realize they can never grow into adults without control of their lives. Consequently, teens begin to fight for control. For teens this struggle for adulthood is terribly risky because they risk losing the most important things in their lives, the love of their parents, at the same time parents may feel rejected, hurt, and anxious about teens abilities to care for themselves only. Their struggle is stressful because both of them care so greatly about each other.
It’s not just a teenager’s problems:
Both parents and teenagers are experiencing change. There is a growing belief among professionals who work with parents and teens that adults' problems contribute equally to teen problems in making these years difficult between parents and children.
Upon entering middle age, many grown-ups are asking themselves what they have achieved so far and what they want to do next. Some may be depressed by a sense that they have not achieved all they had hoped to personally or professionally achieve. In these situations, the rebellious teen may add to the parent’s feelings of uncertainty about themselves. After all,” Good parents” would not be having this struggle with them.
Failure to live up to parental expectations:
A common complaint from teens is that parents “want me to be the way they want me to be”. In other words, many parents want a certain appearance, career, or college for their teen. These parents experience an altering amount of disappointment and sometimes anger because their children fail to live up to their expectations.
Why teenagers need their parents?
· Adolescence can be a difficult time when your child is going through rapid physical changes as well as emotional. Young people aren’t always sure where they fit, and they are still trying to work it out. Adolescence can be a time when peer influence and relationships can cause you and your child some stress. Supporting each other can be vital in order to overcome these challenges.
· During this time, one's family is still a secure emotional base where a teen feels loved and accepted, no matter what’s going on in the rest of his/her life. A family can build and support their child’s confidence, self-belief, optimism, and identity.
· When a family sets rules, boundaries, and standards of behaviour, it gives their child a sense of consistency and predictability.
· Supportive and close family relationships protect teens from risky behaviour like alcohol, solvent abuse, drug abuse, and depression
· Strong family relationships can go a long way towards helping your child grow into a well-adjusted, considerate, and caring individual.
Building healthy family relationships with teenagers
The ordinary, everything that families do together can help build and sustain strong relationships with teenagers. These advises might help you and your family:
Family meals: regular family meals are a great chance for everyone to chat about their day, or about interesting stuff that’s going on or charming up. If you encourage everyone to have a say, no-one will feel they are being put on the spot to talk. Also, many families find that meals are more enjoyable when the TV isn’t invited and when mobile phones and tablets are switched off!
Family outings: Try setting aside time for fun family trips – you could all take turns choosing activities. A relaxing weekend away together as a family can help build strong mutual relationships.
One-on-one time: one-on-one time with your child gives you the chance to stay connected and enjoy each other’s company. It can also be a chance to share thoughts and feelings. If you can, try to find opportunities to have this time with your child.
Family meeting: family meetings can help solve problems. They give everyone a chance to be heard and be part of working out a solution.
Extra supports: if you feel that your family really isn’t connecting, you might find a family counsellor or other family support service helpful.